103. COME HOME TO YOU! PAUL SCANLON TEACHES US TO OVERCOME ABANDONMENT & TRUST OUR ENERGY RADAR

103. COME HOME TO YOU! PAUL SCANLON TEACHES US TO OVERCOME ABANDONMENT & TRUST OUR ENERGY RADAR

Paul Scanlon has been a mentor, educator, and motivational speaker for over 40 years with a focus on communication, leadership, cultural engineering, and self awareness. I've been following Paul on Instagram and have listened to his podcast for quite some time as I've processed traumas, worked on setting better boundaries, and learned communication skills – all the things that I'm still working on to this day!

I’m happy to have him on the podcast today to talk about how our childhood traumas impact us as adults and how we can take measures to get unstuck, come back home to our authentic selves, set better boundaries, and become more comfortable with change.

Paul’s book, I Am Not My Father, is an incredible story of how to heal generational trauma and the power of leaning into who you truly are.

In this episode, he explains how attachment styles formed in childhood influence our relationships and patterns as adults, and how we can start to have more compassion and understanding towards ourselves through all of the ups and downs that life throws at us.

He shares helpful tools for setting boundaries and caring less about what other people think of us as we embark on our journey of self improvement and evolution. He acknowledges that, as we grow and change, our relationships can be strained, and how to overcome friction in our lives in order to focus on our own personal growth. He even shares advice for navigating career transitions and aging gracefully in both body and mind.

I’m grateful for Paul’s work and insight on how to get unstuck and make small steps towards aligning who we are with how we show up in the world. I hope his perspective inspires and empowers you to look inward, too.

(00:02:51) How a Mid-Life Unraveling Turned Into a Transformative Awakening

  • The series of awakenings which facilitated his return home to self
  • Estrangement from his violent alcoholic father
  • Read: I Am Not My Father by Paul Scanlon
  • How Paul navigated his mid-life unraveling
  • Embracing his introversion to awaken his authentic self
  • The importance of having a community of people in healing

(00:11:52) Understanding Attachment Styles & Confronting Abandonment Wounds

(00:19:47) How to Set Better Boundaries & Trust Your Energy Radar

  • What boundaries are really all about
  • Benefits of caring less about what others think
  • Creating energy awareness and trusting your intuition
  • How to set boundaries in toxic relationships
  • How attachment styles play into boundaries

(00:28:29) Embracing Change & Navigating New Relationship Dynamics

  • How to get more comfortable with change
  • Understanding friction in old relationships
  • Facing the challenge of change and the disruption it causes
  • What narrows the odds of people staying stuck?
  • Advice for people navigating career transitions

(00:39:23) Tips For Aging Well Externally & Internally

  • Why people don’t age well
  • 5 areas to focus on to live and age well
  • Identifying the rewards of your emotional work
  • How to start making changes in the face of fear
  • The Big Silence Foundation: Therapy for All

This episode of The Big Silence is sponsored by Clearstem. Visit clearstemskincare.com and use code THEBIGSILENCE for 15% off your order! In doing so, 15% of your purchase will also be donated to The Big Silence Foundation to support mental health programs.

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