What if the love you've been searching for has been waiting for you to heal first?
In this soul-stirring episode of The Big Silence, Karena Dawn sits down with bestselling author and relationship coach Stephan Labossiere, also known as Stephan Speaks, to unpack why so many people struggle to find and keep real love. From modern dating traps to what's quietly killing marriages, Stephan's no-nonsense wisdom will change how you show up in every relationship.
How do you stop searching for love and start becoming it?
Healing your past isn't just self-care. It's the foundation for every meaningful relationship you'll ever have.
(01:37) What Real Love Actually Is
● Stephan defines love as spirit-to-spirit connection, not performance, chemistry, or circumstance
● Why you can't force two people to love each other simply by putting them together
● How Stephan went from IT professional and real estate investor to relationship coach through an unexpected spiritual journey
● What it really means to be "prepared" for love: healing past wounds, not just showing up
(19:48) Dating, Marriage & the Attraction Nobody Talks About
● Red flags to watch: men who won't discuss feelings, men who say they're not serious, and the women who don't believe them
● The #1 issue Stephan sees in marriages: loss of physical attraction, and why no one wants to admit it
● Why attraction isn't just about looks. It's about effort, respect, and energy
● How low self-worth in one partner quietly dismantles intimacy for both
(44:42) Being Love: The Foundation Everything Else Rests On
● Why the goal isn't to find love. It's to become it
● The emotional vs. physical disconnect that quietly breaks most marriages and how to bridge it
● Healing as the prerequisite: how unresolved pain sabotages every new relationship
● Practical ways to walk in love daily: rejecting negativity, caring for your health, starting with the people around you
Guest Resources
● Visit his website: StephanSpeaks.com
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